Separation is Hard Enough without Lockdown
Among the many challenges currently facing family therapists is work with couples and families in the process of separation and divorce. A paper by Lebow (2020) addresses the unique dynamics of these circumstances and provides practical suggestions. COVID both potentiates and constrains separation and divorce. For some couples, lockdown, with it’s isolation from external supports and additional stressors of schooling and work from home, unemployment and income reduction can produce a ‘hot house of interaction’ that escalates to negative sentiment override where problems are magnified and divorce ensues. Yet, at the same time the usual step-wise process of physical, emotional and legal distancing is constrained. The option of moving out of the home may not be available and the legal system unavailable.
Lebow is clear that our first consideration must be for the physical and emotional safety of all family members and suggests that ‘standard helpful ideas, like the value of honesty and self-disclosure, may need to take a backseat to promoting a holding action until separation and the assurance of safety is more feasible’. He recommends developing and monitoring an effective time-out strategy and planning an alternative should this fail. Children should be protected from their parents’ conflict and especially intimate partner violence, and couples from endless recriminative conversations.
This is a context where practitioners need to be willing to take a clear, assertive and interventive stance to protect all family members from a situation that is difficult at the best of times and particularly intense now.
LEBOW,J. (2020) The Challenges of COVID-19 for Divorcing and Post-divorce Families Family Process x:1–7, 2020
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