Morality

Eight (8) lines of morality are identified in the therapeutic process – when these lines are not present in the life of a person or in the life of a family, it is likely that person or that family will encounter problems or develop symptoms.

Framing these as negative and positive is extremely important given the way we think about these matters. 

In my view, it is the absence of the positive characteristics that makes it extremely difficult for a person make their way successfully in this world, to grow up, to differentiate, to be successful in their own terms and in other people’s terms. 

The absence of reciprocity, of reasonable give and take, does not automatically produce unfairness, exploitation and disadvantage; but it soon will if there is no compelling reason for such an inequality to exist or if it persists being drawn to the parties attention. 

The absence of compassion and empathy is different to the presence of callous and cold disregard.

The absence of loyalty is different to the presence of betrayal. The absence of loyalty leaves a vacuum – “nature abhors a vacuum” – the presence of betrayal corrupts and is corrosive and deeply and darkly pernicious. 

The absence of respect is different to the presence of subversion undermining.

Not being straightforward and honest is different to being secretive and deceptive.

Not being included is palpably difference to being actively excluded.

The positive-negative distinction needs to be extremely carefully drawn in our thinking and our practices around these questions. 

All 8 lines of morality are transacted in the therapeutic process.

Some lines are more individual and others are more collective – it is worth exploring the balance individual and collective for each of these lines of morality.

The first two lines, “reciprocity” and “compassion” are probably more foundational than the other four lines – that is not a to dismiss the other four lines or diminish their significance.

Eight (8) lines that form the basis of trust and integrity

1. Reciprocity, give and take, fairness v inequality, exploitation, unfairness, disadvantage

2. Compassion & empathy v disconnection, disregard, and neglect

3. Care, cherishing and protecting others v harm, violence

4. Loyalty, being steadfast v betrayal

5. Secrecy, deception, cheating & lying v straightforward, openness, transparency, honesty

6. Sanctity & purity v humiliation, degradation & violence

7. Respect for legitimate authority v subversion, undermining

8. Inclusion v exclusion