The Couple Relationship and Change

In a couple relationship, change can take place by doing something, through positive action, if and only if the two people involved in that relationship can genuinely collaborate and co-operate with each other.

If the two people involved in that relationship cannot genuinely collaborate and co-operate with each other to do something positive, then one of the parties to the relationship can produce change in the relationship by calling a halt to something, through cessation, something that does not require the involvement or agreement or participation of the other person.

A radical or quantum shift can only come from one party- by them calling a halt to those aspects of their own life, themself, and perhaps their children, that they can actually and successfully, call a halt to.

The two central pillars of a couple relationship are reciprocity (give and take) and compassion (empathy). When these two pillars of a couple relationship are corrupted, the two people involved variously skirmish and avoid each other, in an endless round of failed attempts to shift the inertia that goes with such unbalanced and corrupted reciprocity and compassion.